Welcome to Heal/THY Boundaries
Move beyond the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing and self-abandonment
So you can:
Move from doubt to unshakeable self-trust
Transform surface-level connections into deeply authentic relationships
Honor your needs without the weight of
guilt or shame
Heal/THY Boundaries is a LIVE and Guided
Personal Revolution Transforming How You Show Up in Every Area of Your Life
IF YOU'RE ready to move beyond surface-level boundary advice and develop a deeply authentic approach to protecting your energy and peace...
WE offer a revolutionary framework, transformative practices, and a supportive community that will help you create lasting change - with more ease and grace than you ever imagined possible.
Your Personal Boundary Revolution
Enroll in Heal/THY Boundaries today and gain unlimited access to EVERY future live teaching and coaching session with Randi. Your one-time enrollment grants you lifetime participation in all upcoming live course iterations—no additional fees, ever. Join Randi again and again as she guides you through this transformative journey.
While you can join and get started on the guided course today, Randi teaches the course LIVE over 8 weeks once or twice a year.
Our next live session is tentatively scheduled for
late August/early September
AS SEEN IN…
“For help on boundaries,
Randi Buckley really is the best.”
— Denise Duffield-Thomas
Where Values Meet Wisdom
The Heal/THY Boundaries
FRAMEWORK
"The best work I've ever done for myself."
"A revelation."
"A deeply nuanced, fresh approach to boundaries and personal respect."
These are just some of the ways our students describe their transformative journey through the Heal/THY Boundaries Framework.
Built on Research and Wisdom, Refined Through Experience
Forged through intensive work with nearly 1,000 students and grounded in behavioral psychology, our framework represents a breakthrough in boundary work. Currently the subject of doctoral research, this approach has proven transformative across diverse populations and contexts.
Why Traditional Boundary Work Can Fail
Often traditional boundary advice falls short because it offers inflexible, binary solutions that conflict with our deepest values, say for example, kindness or reciprocity. Our research and work with a thousand of individuals has shown that conventional approaches demand conformity to rigid rules, often leaving empathetic individuals feeling forced to choose between self-care and nurturing relationships and resigning themselves to not being someone who “can have boundaries”. Traditional boundary advice focuses on important skill-building, but misses out on the transformative aspects identity and narrative work. We do both… and more!
The Heal/THY Boundary Difference
Unlike traditional programs, our framework adapts and flows to meet you exactly where you are. Through extensive research and clinical observation, we've documented "The Pathology of Crappy Boundaries" – creating a dynamic, values-based approach that honors both your needs and your relationships.
Our Evidence-Based Journey Together
Through an eight-module curriculum
Six LIVE workshops,
Eight LIVE Community Coaching Sessions,
The Heal/THY Boundaries Workbook and…
BONUS: Monthly Alumni Coaching Calls
Phase One: Tending the Soil
Built on proven psychological principles, we begin by going beneath the surface, examining your relationship with boundaries. This foundational work helps untangle old narratives, creating space for new possibilities to emerge through our unique Concentric Kindness methodology.
Phase Two: Deep Integration
While honoring YOUR boundaries and capacity (because we’re ALL about boundaries and safety), you’ll decide your own pace and determine your own comfort as we draw from extensive experience and ongoing research, we:
Examine and transform communication patterns that lead to over-explanation
Uncover and dismantle psychological trip wires that trigger boundary challenges
Develop strategies for navigating pushback while staying true to yourself
Incorporate boundary wisdom drawn from decades of practical experience
Phase Three: Transformative Growth
Through our work together, you'll develop new boundary truths and possibilities, getting into right relationship with both yourself and others. This framework teaches you to relate in ways that honor yourself while expressing your values.
The Power of Adaptability
One of the things that makes this framework so effective is its fluidity – it's designed to adapt to you, rather than forcing you to conform to a rigid system. You'll learn to apply these research-backed principles across all areas of your life:
Personal relationships
Professional settings
Complex family dynamics
Any situation requiring healthy boundaries
The Ultimate Result:
Respect and Effectiveness
This isn't just about setting better boundaries – it's about creating a new way of being in relationship with yourself and others that honors your deepest values while ensuring your needs are met. No more self-abandonment! It's about finding that sweet spot where personal growth meets relational health, where kindness to yourself naturally extends to kindness to others.
YOU’LL
LEARN
TO…
Redefine Your Relationship with Boundaries
Discover a transformative framework that aligns with your values and revolutionizes how you think about personal limits.
Uncover Your Unique Boundary Needs
Gain profound, personalized insights into your specific boundary requirements through our innovative assessment process.
Master Randi's Groundbreaking Methodology
Learn how to determine, set, and enforce boundaries that truly resonate with your deepest values.
Heal the Root Causes of Boundary Struggles
Dive deep into the underlying issues that have held you back and experience true transformation. You’ll also learn the Logical Fallacies of Conventional Boundaries.
We have a module just on People-Pleasing, alone.
Communicate with Confidence and Respect
Develop the skills to articulate your boundaries clearly and effectively in any situation.
Protect Your Well-being
Learn powerful strategies to address and prevent boundary violations, ensuring your peace of mind, and how to navigate PUSHBACK of your boundaries.
Transform Your Relationships
Apply your new boundary-setting skills to create healthier, more fulfilling personal
and professional connections.
Create Lasting Change
Integrate these life-changing boundary practices into every aspect of your life for long-term success and satisfaction.
From Insight to Action
Get practical, actionable strategies that turn your newfound awareness into real-world results.
Lifetime of Skills to Navigate Boundaries
Develop a sustainable plan for maintaining strong, healthy boundaries that evolve with you throughout your life journey.
“Randi and this boundary work have changed the trajectory of my entire life. I’ve gone from feeling withdrawn and avoidant to being confident in my ability to navigate personal, social and business situations with genuine grace and kindness.”
— ELLA R.
We “do” boundaries differently,
which is both a revolution and revelation.
A Few Alumni Outcomes From
Heal/THY Boundaries®
While these are powerful outcomes, you learn how to navigate boundaries for a lifetime of healthy relationships.
Decided whether to get divorced (or not)
Stepped out of empirical family dynasty to establish life on their terms.
A tenured professor and department chair was able to navigate the needs of their department while getting out from under the pull of university politics to make good choices for themselves and their colleagues.
Reconnected with their longest friendship, the last link to their past, even in the face of profound political and religious differences
A freelance writer quadrupled their income after boundaries around contracts, payments, and scope of service.
Renegotiated their contract with a movie studio.
Mother-in-law stopped unexpected visits and assuming everyone would follow her vacation dictation (plans)
Able to start dating “healthy” individuals after a lifetime of unhealthy and/or abusive relationships.
A caregiver that found themselves again while finding new ways to navigate the care of an elderly parent.
After being passed over by doctors, advocated for her health care to get a proper diagnosis and treatment.
Changed the trajectory of adult sibling dynamics to share the care of their parents.
Removed toxic law partner from the practice.
Finally felt like she learned how not to disappear or fade in the face of conflict.
Stopped assuming they must’ve done something wrong when someone was unpleasant or upset and found new ways to navigate this.
Brought constructive and civil discourse back into their university among growing “cancel culture”.
Found they could have boundaries while managing chronic illness where they are dependent on others but felt they were at their mercy.
Found and nurtured friendships with the value of reciprocity was present and honored.
Took a stand for themselves without feeling like a jerk.
Gracefully opted out of hosting all the holiday celebrations by default.
Navigated a way to keep the overbearing grandparents in their kids’ lives while no longer being overbearing
How Heal/THY Boundaries is Structured So You Are Supported in This Work
This isn't typical boundaries offering. It’s not a “How-To”, blueprint, recipe or script. It’s a dynamic, living, breathing framework for life and relationships, crafted from decades of wisdom, adult learning best practices, and real-world transformation.
Here's what makes this experience uniquely powerful:
One-of-a-Kind Curriculum
Eight Potent& Powerful Modules
We've distilled our celebrated and carefully crafted curriculum into eight essential steps, each one a crucial piece of your boundary journey. The best part? Each module meets you exactly where you are.
Need just the core concepts? Got you covered. Ready to dive deeper? There are deeper layers waiting for you to explore. (Our alumni often tell us this is the most eye-opening, effective boundary and relationship work they've ever encountered.)
LIVE Workshops
LIVE Workshops with Randi!
Picture this: Six LIVE 50-minute sessions where I'm dancing in the moment with you, teaching from my proprietary work, meeting you exactly where you are. We'll explore the content together and dive into live exercises that take your understanding to new depths.
Can't make it live? No worries – everything is recorded and stored for you to revisit whenever inspiration strikes.
Workshops are Tuesdays, at NOON PACIFIC, March: 18th, 25th, April 1st, 8th, 22nd, and 29th
Your Reflection Workbook
Here's a confession: I'm not naturally a workbook person but am a big purveyor or reflective learning. I've learned that many of you love workbooks – and for good reason!
We've taken the powerful questions I use in one-on-one coaching sessions and crafted them into a thoughtful companion guide that follows our curriculum.
It's your private space to unlock new truths and chart your unique path forward.
Community Coaching Hours
Come for hot seat coaching or simply experience the magic of community learning. This is where theory meets real life and we apply your learning. I create a warm, confidential space where respect is the bottom line. We'll meet for EIGHT up-t0 90-minute sessions, recorded with participant permission so you won't miss a single insight.
Coaching Open Office Hours are Fridays at 9:30 AM PACIFIC, March 21st, 28th, April 4th, 11th. 25th, May 2nd, 9th, and 16th
“Working with Randi has been transformational. Apart from my law degree, this boundaries work is the best thing I have ever done for myself.”
- Claire Mahon, Human Rights Attorney, Geneva
Enroll Below Today
If it feels right, we’d love to have you enroll today.
After your enrollment, we’ll send you all of logistics and a link to schedule your coaching session. You can schedule them right away or hold off and see when you want them.
NO PENALTY
30-DAYS APART
THREE PAYMENTS
NO PENALTY
30-DAYS APART
TWO PAYMENTS
Preferred
FULL PAYMENT
Please honor your own financial boundaries.
Our payment plans are non-punitive, meaning there is not extra fee.
All terms and conditions apply, which are below. In short, we do not offer refunds or guarantees, as that would be silly if not harmful, to guarantee a specific outcome when I don’t know your situation, etc…
There is no “forced” sharing in this program. You go as deep as you’d like. We honor boundaries, confidentiality, and respect. Terms and conditions below.
This boundary thing, well Randi Buckley understands the heart & soul of it. And I mean, turning inside to the essence & heart of boundary-making. I'm still slowly metabolizing her class I took last year, and I am so slow at growing the ability to do this boundary thing--because my boundaries were so smashed by a borderline parent, borderline systems of racism, patriarchy, etc. that I could not find my ass from my elbow in boundary-making. For some people, boundary-making is fairly straight forward & not challenging for them. For some of us- it is confusing and painful work using all kinds of toxic subs because we don't get it. Randi's class is unlike anything you would think it would be. Kind of like the diff between commercial farming and organic biodynamic gardening. A wild analogy but, meaning that it is more of an organic safe/brave process...not a prefab gimmicky fix, but digging down into the roots of it.
-Margot Stebbing, Hawaii
"Randi has given me the courage I need to say no.”
“I"’ve struggled with boundaries all of my life. But after working with Randi I have learned to set and enforce them - while still maintaining my kindness. I’m forever grateful for her wise guidance.
I wonder if I should start a Randi Buckley Fan Club. I'd be a good president for that.”
- Theresa Reed, The Tarot Lady
TERMS AND DISCLAIMERS
Boundaries are in part, expectation management. So, it’s good to know the terms. For full terms and policies, please see our complete terms and policies page. While it’s all based on respect and integrity, I’ll highlight some of the main points:
All sales are final and we do not offer refunds. Do to the digital nature of the product and the unique circumstances each person brings to the work, refunds would be inappropriate. Please be sure you want to purchase prior to doing so. Randi Buckley Coaching, LLC, does not offer any specific guarantees about results or outcomes of the course. That would be disrespectful to you, as you are a unique individual and results will vary based on program engagement, life circumstances, and the like, etc.… All testimonials are in the alumnus’ own words , are used with permission, and do not and may not reflect your experience in the program. Purchase of Heal/Thy Boundaries conveys respect for the program, intellectual property, Randi’s livelihood, and a promise to not copy or try to pass any aspect of the program off as your own, to not rebrand the content, or steal the intellectual property. Lived experience requires we state this. Again, full terms and policies can be found at the link given above. If you have questions, please contact us.
"Working with Randi and learning from her has been life-changing.”
“No hyperbole here – and completely shifted my mind frame (and behaviors) regarding boundaries. I love that Randi’s approach centers boundaries in a way that emphasizes what we want to bring into our lives, is aligned with our values, and honors and celebrates our kindness.”
— Dr. Lilia Graue, MD, Mexico City
"I evangelize frequently about the life-changing magic that is Randi’s boundary work.”
“Randi is a coach’s coach, the wise person’s wise person, and the space holder’s space holder. Your work with her is certain to be expansive, exquisite, and, yes, deep. After studying with her I've come to believe that if more of us had the skills she teaches, we would experience so much more ease, peace, joy, and connection.”
— Lauren Bacon, London/Vancouver
Lovely Words from Lovely Folks
“Boundaries are part of Randi’s natural medicine for the world.”
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“Randi is patience, kindness, wisdom and love.”
SAS PETHERICK →
“Working with Randi has been transformational.”
CLAIRE MAHON →
“When you meet Randi, you will crack wide open.”
ERIKA HINES →
Even more kind words this way…
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Hello. My name is Randi Buckley
I’ve been coaching for 30+ years and trained as a therapist*. My undergraduate degrees are in Modern Languages, Life Sciences/Anatomy and Physiology**, and psychology. I have advanced degrees in counseling psychology and medical ethics. I am currently a doctoral student studying and researching coaching, mentoring… and boundaries! My coach training includes the Co-Active Institute, The Center for Right Relationship (Organizational and Relationships Systems Coaching), The Gottman Institute, and private mentorships with coaching mentors. I was studying to become a midwife when I realized that for me, that was metaphorical.
I have trained staff and/or presented at The OMEGA Institute , The Chopra Center, Green Mountain Coffee Roasters, Ben and Jerry’s, CANYON RANCH, served as an on-set coach for NBC-FRIENDS, Stanford University, UC-Riverside, and more. I am the creator of Healthy Boundaries for Kind People®, Maybe Baby®, and The Viking Woman Workshop. I am the Associate Dean of Skogfjorden, the Norwegian Language Village, where I have been for 35 years.
My clients include household names and big-brained/hearted common folk doing amazing things in the world. I hit the jackpot with parents who were not flawless, but were doing their own healing work, and raised with the mantra, do no harm, (be helpful, stand up for yourself and others) but take no shit.
Coaching & Mentoring are my raison d'être.
FAQs
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I offer some scripts to get the ball rolling, sort of like training wheels. Our emphasis is on teaching you to craft and find your own words- that's really key!
I don't want you to be dependent on someone else's (or my) words but to feel confident in your own. So yes, scripts to start, and then my "Mad Libs"-inspired process to teach you to say what you mean and mean what you say... and feel good about it!
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You will have lifetime access to this work. Lifetime here means, as long as the work is offered by us, which we hope is a long time!
But please use and do the work! You’ll only get results if you do it. We want you to do and use this powerful work. -
Tuition is non-refundable. Please be ready to do some good, and deep, work.
I don’t do guarantees, nor are testimonials a premonition into what will happen for you.
Here's why: I encourage, and help, you apply this work and the learning to your specific needs and customize it in ways that work for you. Everyone comes to this work with different life experiences and you will need to make it your own.
Telling you exactly what will happen for you, and forcing your hand in order to meet an arbitrary guarantee, isn't how I do my work, nor how I want you to do yours.
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It depends. This self-paced course is not a substitute for medical or mental health care.
If you are currently processing deep pain, memories, or trauma from boundary violations, I ask that you get professional therapeutic support.
Speak with your therapist to feel out if this course would support the work you are doing with them. Many past participants have found that to be deeply helpful... and several therapists, seeing the benefits, enrolled themselves.
If you have questions, please contact me through my “Contact” form at the top of this page. And seriously, a lot of us have been there and it can and will get better. I wish you great healing.
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I’ve tried nearly every platform out there, and we’ve landed on one that I like the best is Ruzuku. It's the most underrated, consistently working, workhorse out there!
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Yes! Through this work, I have discovered that many of you don't identify with being “kind.” Sometimes that's a difference in perception and sometimes that's just not how you'd label yourself, which I'm not going to ask you to do. BUT if you are someone who values kindness, compassion, and fear of confrontation, then you'll get tremendous value from this.
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This course is my livelihood. Purchasing Heal/Thy Boundaries implies you respect the intellectual property and will not sell the work or claim it as your own.
Really. I have to write this based on past experience. If you have questions, please do ask!
How Heal/THY Boundaries is Structured So You Are Supported in This Work
This isn't typical boundaries offering. It’s not a “How-To”, blueprint, recipe or script. It’s a dynamic, living, breathing framework for life and relationships, crafted from decades of wisdom, adult learning best practices, and real-world transformation.
Here's what makes this experience uniquely powerful:
One-of-a-Kind Curriculum
Eight Potent& Powerful Modules
We've distilled our celebrated and carefully crafted curriculum into eight essential steps, each one a crucial piece of your boundary journey. The best part? Each module meets you exactly where you are.
Need just the core concepts? Got you covered. Ready to dive deeper? There are deeper layers waiting for you to explore. (Our alumni often tell us this is the most eye-opening, effective boundary and relationship work they've ever encountered.)
LIVE Workshops
LIVE Workshops with Randi!
Picture this: Six LIVE 50-minute sessions where I'm dancing in the moment with you, teaching from my proprietary work, meeting you exactly where you are. We'll explore the content together and dive into live exercises that take your understanding to new depths.
Can't make it live? No worries – everything is recorded and stored for you to revisit whenever inspiration strikes.
Workshops are Tuesdays, at NOON PACIFIC, March: 18th, 25th, April 1st, 8th, 22nd, and 29th
Your Reflection Workbook
Here's a confession: I'm not naturally a workbook person but am a big purveyor or reflective learning. I've learned that many of you love workbooks – and for good reason!
We've taken the powerful questions I use in one-on-one coaching sessions and crafted them into a thoughtful companion guide that follows our curriculum.
It's your private space to unlock new truths and chart your unique path forward.
Community Coaching Hours
Come for hot seat coaching or simply experience the magic of community learning. This is where theory meets real life and we apply your learning. I create a warm, confidential space where respect is the bottom line. We'll meet for EIGHT up-t0 90-minute sessions, recorded with participant permission so you won't miss a single insight.
Coaching Open Office Hours are Fridays at 9:30 AM PACIFIC, March 21st, 28th, April 4th, 11th. 25th, May 2nd, 9th, and 16th
Enroll Below Today
If it feels right, we’d love to have you enroll today.
After your enrollment, we’ll send you all of logistics and a link to schedule your coaching session. You can schedule them right away or hold off and see when you want them.
NO PENALTY
30-DAYS APART
THREE PAYMENTS
NO PENALTY
30-DAYS APART
TWO PAYMENTS
Preferred
FULL PAYMENT
Please honor your own financial boundaries.
Our payment plans are non-punitive, meaning there is not extra fee.
All terms and conditions apply, as stated above. In short, we do not offer refunds or guarantees, as that would be silly if not harmful, to guarantee a specific outcome when I don’t know your situation, etc…
There is no “forced” sharing in this program. You go as deep as you’d like. We honor boundaries, confidentiality, and respect. Terms and conditions below.